Here’s a preview: It has little to nothing to do with what you’re saying, doing or going to do.
Also, it has nothing to do with what you wear or how deep your pocket is.
These can only bring you so far.
Long term dating isn’t understanding how to talk or stand a certain way. It isn’t “faking it till you make it.”
It’s deeper than that.
If you’re looking for an article full of “pick up lines” then you are going to be disappointed.
Not only are you going to be disappointed, but you are also going to be disappointed with every article, video or book that offers such advice.
What Do Women Want?
The great question that has never been answered… despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ‘What do women want?'”sigmund freud
If you ask most guys if they understand women, they will give you a blank stare.
Most guys are clueless!
They are just talking women out of dating or sleeping with them because they do not have the slightest clue on what creates attraction and what turns a woman on.
Women want men that understand them and how attraction works!
One of the most important things to understand about women is that they want a guy who is his own man.
They want a guy who goes for what he wants in life without worrying about what others think.
A woman wants a man who has Purpose!
You don’t have to be perfect or rich to date a beautiful woman but a woman needs to know that she can’t have her way with you, no matter what she says or does, she is not going to be able to sway you from your purpose in life.
I’m not talking about disrespecting, abusing, or dominating the shit out of her. Those are insecurities!
I’m talking about you.
More specifically, your purpose in life.
Some people call it Confidence.
Some refer to it as Alpha Male.
Whatever it is, a man who has a purpose will go for what he wants and his passion over a woman if faced with the choice.
After all, Masculine energy is all about Purpose & Mission.
If a woman can’t feel your masculine energy, then you are not worth dating in the eyes of a feminine.
Women go weak-in-the-knees for a guy who is centered and in control of himself.
How to Date a Beautiful Woman
There are gorgeous and attractive women out there desperate to meet you.
You do not have to talk like Benedict Cumberbatch, dress like Tom Cruise or look like Brad Pitt to own the heart of a beautiful woman.
The wonderful truth is a woman will do most of the chasing, calling and pursuing if you treat her properly and allow her to come to you at her own pace with minimal effort on your part.
This allows you to focus on what’s most important in any man’s life: Mission & Purpose!
Tip #1: An Answer Every Man Needs Before Dating
The success of dating starts before you even meet a woman.
Before you go out, answer this very simple: “What is your purpose right now?”
Not 5 years ago or 10 years later… but right now!
What do you want to accomplish?
Ironically, the more you focus on pursuing your purpose with unceasing passion, the more attractive women will find you in general.
A man who has a burning desire to pursue his mission gives off a much happier, confident and positive vibe than a guy who hates his life and job.
Tip #2: Let Her Do Most of the Talking
Let her do about 80% of the talking on the first few dates and all you have to do is focus on asking good questions.
Women Love Mystery and this is how you remain mysterious.
When men talk, chances are, they will boast about their strengths and accomplishments.
For many guys, they thought this is the best way to date a woman – by showing all their cards at once.
However, this is the fastest way to get a woman to lose interest.
Women are like cats. They are curious creatures and they love to uncover mysteries.
They want to feel like they have ‘earned’ it.
If you tell them everything before they barely know you, it will have an opposite effect – they will think you are an insecure dickhead who only knows how to brag.
The best way to keep a woman interested is to keep her curious.
Curiosity killed the cat but it wouldn’t kill her.
When she is curious, she will think a lot! (And I do mean… A LOT! Thinking and over-analyzing things are what women do best)
The best way to keep her curious and interested in you is to let her do most of the talking… especially at the start.
You are killing 2 birds with 1 stone with this advice:
- You remain mysterious, therefore, you appear more ‘interesting’ in her eyes.
- Women love to talk (so let them talk) and they will think you are a good listener.
Two big points earned! Buy me a drink later…
Tip #3: Show That You Have Options With Women
What? I know this sounds absurd but…
Women prefer a guy who has options with women!
Women don’t know why themselves but this is a fact.
Many guys have had this experience – whenever they are attached, every girl wants them.
When they are single, no one wants to date them.
So my tip is even if you haven’t dated in 10 years, you don’t have to tell anyone how miserable you are.
She doesn’t need to know.
In fact, nobody wants to know!
A woman wants to feel special and one of the ways she gets it is by knowing you have options with plenty of women… but at the end of the day, you still decided to spend time with her.
Women have this radar instilled in them. When a woman sees a guy with another woman, especially a beautiful woman, she wonders: “Hmmm… what makes her fall for him?” or “Wow… What’s this guy got?”
This evokes her curiosity thus making her more interested in you.
You don’t have to tell every girl you see: “Oh, I have plenty of women.”
I don’t condone lying and manipulation.
A guy who is confident doesn’t need to go around telling people he is confident. A guy who is rich doesn’t need to go around telling people he is rich. You get what I mean.
Even when you don’t have a lot of options now, you can still show – through the way you carry yourself – that you are not bothered about her liking you or not.
If she doesn’t like you… so be it. It is her loss!
It is all about the masculine energy and confidence you exude!
Tip #4: Always Make Your Date Feels She is a Little More Special
Women are very competitive in this respect. They want to know if they are better than other women you are seeing or have seen.
So it helps to make her feel a little more special.
If she asks, “how many women have you seen?” or “Is your ex-girlfriend hot?”
Don’t give her a direct answer. Simply say:
“I don’t kiss and tell.” Or…
“None of those girls are as stunning as you.” with a James Bond smirk on your face.
After this, ask about her life and let your date wonder and fill in the blanks herself.
You don’t have to overcomplicate things or memorize some cheesy pick-up lines or worry about what to say or not to say.
Keep it simple and mysterious and you will go further than most guys.
Tip #5: Give Women Room to Miss You by Not Chasing Them
Men who put women on the pedestal gets rejected because the act of chasing is a submissive (feminine) quality.
It is no wonder why many women become flakey, unavailable and confuse the moment a man starts going ‘gung-ho’ on her.
Instead of messaging her or calling her all the time, give her room and space to miss you.
Your inaction will cause her to wonder if you still desire her.
If she is interested, she will be the one who calls you and ask how are you, what you are doing and then tell you random things that have been going on with her life.
When a woman contacts you, always assume that she wants you in some way.
All you have to do is facilitate getting together.
Tip #6: Take it with a Pinch of Salt When a Woman Tell You What She Wants
Ask a woman what she wants in a relationship and she will respond with something like: “Well, I want a romantic man that buys me flowers, dine and wine me all the time.”
But when you do exactly what she tells you, she flakes and blows you off.
The worst thing is, she goes out with a guy (yeah, the bad boy) who does none of those shits she says she ‘wants.’
What a woman says she wants and what she emotionally responds to is two very different things so take it with a pinch of salt whenever a woman tells you what she wants.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t dine or buy a woman flowers, you should!
But the fancy things can come later – when she is totally into you – NOT when you first started seeing her.
One of the reasons ‘nice’ guys finish last is because ‘nice’ guys are easy to read and predictable.
He’s not mysterious. He’s not strong. He’s not centered.
I’m not asking you not to be nice.
Be nice and courteous to others but don’t be that ‘nice’ guy who bends to women’s every whim.
This shows her that you are untrustworthy and that you will do or say anything just to make her happy.
A woman will not trust a ‘nice’ guy masculine core because if he can’t stand up for himself to her, he will not be able to defend her in times of physical danger.
Tip #7: Lead! Take the Direction
Women can make decisions for themselves BUT they just don’t want to make all the decisions.
The feminine loves to relax and trust your masculine core. She enjoys you taking control.
As a guy, you need to decide and make up your mind about what it is you want to do… even if you have no idea or clue.
Sometimes, a man has to learn to trust his gut and just go with it.
If you have been in a relationship before and ask: “Hey babe, what do you want to do/eat/go tonight?”
I bet her respond is somewhere along this line: “What do you want to do?”
You: “I don’t know, babe. What do you want to do?”
This is a big turn-off for women.
In other words, what women are saying “Will you be a man and make a decision already? For goddess sake!”
It is infinitely better to make a wrong decision than to not make any decision at all.
Read that again.
No one is perfect and a good woman knows that.
Make a mistake? Apologize.
- “I had made a terrible choice coming to this restaurant that serves horrible food and has awful services.”
- “Let’s get out of here and we are never coming back again.”
Simple as that. Apologize and laugh it off.
If you want, you can also make up to her by offering to buy her ice-cream, a drink or bring her somewhere else that you know is gonna be fun.
An optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
And a woman takes note of these little things:
- “He led and made a choice (even though it is a bad one). I’ll give him a point.”
- “Wow, he is sensible enough to apologize and offer to bring me somewhere else! I’m comfortable following his lead. What a gentleman! 3 points!”
If you want to be nice, this is the way to be nice. Not by bending to women’s every whim.
A woman will accept you in your masculine core even when you make mistakes – a lot of mistakes even – but not many women can accept you being a pussy.
Tip #8: Declaring Your Love on the First Date is a Huge Mistake!
Truth is, you don’t have to declare your love to a woman for her to know that you are interested.
A woman instinctively knows when you are interested in her.
Women are extremely sensitive in this manner. They just know. It is common sense to them, but not to us men.
Women go on the first date to see what happens.
Men go on the first date with the focus on making her his girlfriend.
When a guy gets hung-up at the beginning of the relationship without first knowing who the woman is, he seems incredibly needy.
All women have met guys who are needy in the past. They can smell a needy person from a mile away.
Many guys often start off by professing his plans about having a relationship with her or where he is going to take her on a date next.
To women, this is a major turn-off because it does absolutely nothing to build any anticipation that they crave so much.
This is anti-mystery!
This is like spoiling a good movie to a friend who hasn’t seen it yet.
Women love a little challenge and they want to be in a love story full of build-ups, sexual tensions, and mysteries.
Your goal for the first few dates is to have a good time and get to know who she is. Keep the conversation light and positive.
Ask simple questions: “Tell me more about you?” “What do you like to do for fun?”
Instead of: “You’re so pretty!” “I love you!” “I want to bring you to ___ on the next date!”
Tip #9: When it is Time to Kiss… Go for it!
A lot of men thought that saying “I love you” is romantic on a first date, that’s BS.
The best way to blow her socks off is by kissing her!
But how do you know when a woman is ready to be kissed?
- When you are sitting so close that her knee may be touching yours.
- When she is leaning toward you and her body bumps into you.
Any time you feel like both of you are physically too be close, try this:
As she’s talking, move your eyes slowly to her lips and back to her eyes, slowly back to her lips and then into her eyes again.
If she looks at your lips at any time while you are doing this, it means she is ready. Go for it and kiss her!
Don’t overthink this.
I know it sounds scary but it is EASIER than most people think.
When both of you are so close physically, chances are, the fears and tensions that you have earlier are mostly gone.
Both of you are already comfortable with each other, therefore, the kiss should come quite naturally.
I was contemplating if I should include this tip since it should happen naturally and I know not many people are comfortable to kiss on the first date (or on the first few dates).
Yet, I had decided to include this tip here because it is CRUCIAL!
If you wait and hesitate too long, the woman you are seeing will lose attraction and interest. She will think you are not worthy.
When it is time to kiss, go for it.
If you hesitate, you’ll masturbate.
Tip #10: Women Want to be Notice
The feminine energy is all about opening up and receiving a man.
- A man penetrates the world by accomplishing his mission and purpose.
- A woman opens up by receiving a man’s love.
She is penetrated in every way by her man: emotionally, spiritually and physically.
He, in every way, penetrates the world and his woman.
A woman is willing to spend hours (and hell a lot of money) to make herself look attractive.
Why? It is so she can be noticed by you and hopefully receive your love.
When a woman says, “look, I just got my hair/nails done today” and you simply say “I’m busy now.” It is one of the BIGGEST sins you can do.
What you are essentially ‘telling’ to her is that you don’t love her. She is unimportant to you right now.
Women are desperate to be noticed. Everything they do is about getting your attention.
That is why it is ESSENTIAL that you understand this. When women feel heard and understood, the legs open.
A woman who goes on a date will go the extra mile to make herself more attractive or smell good.
You don’t have to give her cheesy meaningless compliments like “oh, you’re beautiful” or “wow, you have nice hair.”
Just say, “What an unusual bag that is, where did you get it?” Don’t even tell her if you like it or not.
The idea here is NOT to compliment her but to take notice and subtly let her know that you are actually paying attention to her.
Another good way to do this is to refer back to something earlier in the conversation. It conveys to her that you are listening and paying attention to what she said.
(Big tip: Always put your phone away when dating. If you need to use your phone, say ‘excuse me’ and get back to her ASAP once you’re done.)
Do this right and she will appreciate you for being an empathetic man who is genuinely interested in her rather than a robotic, inauthentic, phony ass pleaser who uses compliments as a bribe for sex (what ‘nice’ guys usually do).
Bonus Tip: NEVER Be Fixated On Just One Woman Until She Has Earned It
Dating is all about meeting new people and having fun together.
One thing you should NEVER do is to be fixated on just one woman.
Never commit to one woman until she has earned it.
When we put a woman on a pedestal before she has earned it, it implies that we are desperate and needy. It is not attractive.
Many men get so obsessed with just one woman that he fails to see that there are many women who are desperate to meet him for who he really is.
It is important that you read her attraction level towards you and see if she reciprocates to your advances as soon as you can.
If she’s not interested, move on.
Rejection exists for a reason – it’s a means to keep people who are not good for each other apart.Mark manson
There is NO scarcity of women out there.
There are more beautiful single women than you could possibly date from a purely numerical standpoint.
Men should stop daydreaming about ‘one’ woman and realize that we have options. Plenty of options.
Who you want to meet is out there. Furthermore, who you want also wants you.
BUT… you have to be in the game to score.
Stop wasting months or even years on someone you have very little potential with.
FYI: You wouldn’t be fulfilled in a relationship with someone who has little interest in you anyway.
Your goal is to simply find ONE that does have a high level of attraction and stop wasting all your time and resources with one that doesn’t have any interest.
Men who are successful with women NEVER obsessed with just one woman when they are single.
They see themselves as the price.
They have the mentality that if women don’t want them, it is their loss.
As a result, women respond accordingly.
A successful man comes from a place of abundance. He couldn’t care less about a woman who shows little interest or who is not responding to him.
He is unaffiliated with women who don’t reciprocate to his advances. If things don’t work out well with one girl, so be it.
There are a lot of trashes in the sea… but guess what? There are plenty of fishes too.
It’s okay if things don’t turn out well because not every woman is compatible to be with you and you are not compatible to be with every woman.
I cannot promise you 100% success on your next date just by reading an article but what I can promise you is that you will see improvements.
Feel free to let me know which are the tips that you find most helpful and/or beneficial.
If you enjoyed this article then be sure to share this with your friend who is having a hard time landing a date.
Keep things mysterious. Keep investing in yourself.
Have fun dating!